On Sunday, I attended my first Magic the Gathering pre-release for the Ravnica Allegiance expansion. Me, my brother, and my two friends from college met up at the coffee/game store where I occasionally work. While I had fun at the pre-release, I didn’t win a single game. To be fair, I play Magic for fun and not to be competitive. When I turned in my scorecard at the end of the prerelease, the worker at the game shop made a comment and gave me sympathy since I didn’t win a game. While I think this person was trying to be helpful, it instead made me feel embarrassed. This is what prompted my post describing in detail my love/hate relationship with Magic: the Gathering.
![Image is a selfie of me holding my Ravnica pre-release kit. I'm smiling at the camera]](https://bizarrebrunette.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/2019-pre-release-jan-20th-.jpeg)
I started playing Magic: The Gathering in 2003 when my uncle taught me and my brother how to play. I became obsessed with the mechanics of the cards, the art on each card, and the story behind each set. I even had a Magic: The Gathering birthday where I received a hand-picked deck and played Magic all day. This teaching didn’t stick as I gave up the game a year later because I became focused on other things. Ten years later, I was in college and an ex-boyfriend of mine had been playing Magic more often with his friends. I decided then I would try again and re-learn how to play.
One thing that was different when learning Magic in 2013 was realizing how toxic the Magic: The Gathering community can be. I played against players who were specifically targeting me because I was the only woman in the group. I had players who if I was winning, would “scoop” or draw from the match instead of allowing the game to finish. I had players be condescending towards me if I was losing and telling me I had “a lot to learn” if I ever wanted to win against them. The toxicity I experienced became exhausting to deal with.
It led to several times when I would play Magic more often and then go months without playing. I became discouraged at times based on who I had played with recently. I don’t want to give up a hobby based on my experiences within the community, but it’s hard not to. I will say, that my brother and my two friends never made me feel embarrassed because I hadn’t won a game. They were friendly to me and my brother wanted to sit down and play more games with me and offer strategy advice which I would find beneficial.
![[Image is a Ravnica Allegiance pre-release pack. It's sitting on a coffee table]](https://bizarrebrunette.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/simic-pre-release-jan-20th.jpeg)
My specific goal involving Magic: the Gathering is to play more! I can only get better as a player if I play more games. I also downloaded Magic: the Gathering Arena which is an online format of the game where you play against players in real time. This way even if I can’t get in a physical game at a game shop, I can play in the comfort of my own home. Finally, I discovered an all-female Magic group that plays at various game stores in Minneapolis. I’m hoping this will be a judgment-free place to learn more about the game without the harassment I had experienced in the past.
I would love to hear your thoughts about the game if you ever played it. Specifically, if you have experienced harassment in this community, let me know in the comments below.
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