Gaming Harassment: Being a Girl Gamer Is Hard

I read an article a couple days ago of a fifth grader playing Minecraft where she met this “12 year old boy” The mother saw the messages of this “12 year old boy” which were sexual in nature. The mother went to the police and they are currently trying to track down this creep.

Girls in general have a harder time when it comes to breaking into the video game industry. Whether it’s rape threats and harassment on Xbox Live or to over-sexualized female characters, there are times where I’m just done with gaming.

I have certainly been harassed extensively when I first started gaming. As a young 13 year old awkward girl in middle school, I received an Xbox 360 Christmas 2007. That Christmas I played Halo 3 for probably the entire day; those were the good days. That’s when I first saw the ugly side of gaming. Me being a naive 13 year old girl, I made my gamer tag an obvious somewhat girly tag: Iceskater101. It’s still my gamer tag, but I would get messages from guys trying to flirt with me. I would be in a match and people would say my gamer tag and say I was probably ugly, fat and a bitch. Those were the PG comments that I got. I had a lot of sexual comments from guys saying what they would do to me. Yet, I’m just a 13 year old girl trying to enjoy her favorite game.

To prove my point of the ugly side of gaming, it’s important to mention gamer gate. The basics of gamer gate is that a former boyfriend of a girl game designer wrote a post about how awful she was and threatened to rape and kill her. This game designer was threatened by others as well. This whole controversy just shows the ugly side of gaming: how some men are misogynistic and have this hatred of women gaming.

I’m rather fortunate as my boyfriend really likes that I game and we play together. Sometimes I end up hogging his Xbox One because I still haven’t upgraded yet. Battlefront DLC was released and I can’t wait to play it.

I handle harassment by just reporting itΒ  and hopefully that fixes the issue. Sometimes I have trash talked my perpetrators, but that leads to the comments becoming worse with more threatening language. I wish the gaming industry wasn’t this way, and I won’t let it stop me from enjoying something I love. However, it shows me how sexism & misogony are still prevalent in today’s society.

On the bright side there is this website which exposes gamer tags and their ruthless behavior. Sometimes I read it and laugh, but then I realize that it’s sad that men react this way. Take a look for yourself:Β  Fat, Ugly or Slutty






16 thoughts on “Gaming Harassment: Being a Girl Gamer Is Hard

    • I definitely 100% agree. I don’t understand why it’s hard for some men to understand that women can be gamers too. Luckily, I feel like it has been cut down since Microsoft does actually listen to the reports they get. I just wish that it was a little more friendly to women at times.


  1. It’s such a shame that men feel the need to be misogynistic for women just enjoying something that they do. I’m sorry that you go through with such harassment and hope you remain strong to keep doing what you love. πŸ™‚


  2. How horrid that comments like that can taint something you enjoy. I’m glad you and your boyfriend enjoy gaming together and it’s not stopping doing something you love. Keep reporting those creeps and shooting the crap out of stuff …. In games of course πŸ˜‰ Charlie x


  3. Luckily I have never had any problems as a girl gamer, but I do hear it a lot from other girls. I completely understand that it can “ruin” something you love.


  4. When I would play co-op games where you could talk to other players and would get shit for being a female, I would totally tear the balls off the guys trying to tear me down because I AM a bitch and don’t put up with shit like that. I liked trolling the trolls. It was fun to listen to them cry. Assholes.


    • Haha I used to do that too but then the comments would just get worse and I felt like I was feeding into it. I mean whatever makes it work for you. I once played Max Payne 3 and smoked all of the guys in the match, it was great


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