My Loud Voice. . . An Insecurity

Astronomy Club in College approximately five years ago.

I was at a work sponsored happy hour, drinking beer and mingling with my coworkers. The conversation turned into this guessing game of “Which high school superlative would you be?” We went around the circle coming up with which superlative represented each person in the group. My turn came and within fifteen seconds, someone shouted “the loudest.” Everyone started laughing. I was nervously giggling. I recognize that I’m a loud person, but it’s a deep insecurity of mine.

When I was younger, I was soft spoken. My teachers were concerned because throughout elementary school, I had one close friend. In 3rd grade, I started meeting other friends, but I didn’t approach anyone I didn’t know. This behavior continued into middle school and high school. I stuck to my closest friends and didn’t socialize with anyone else. This all changed when I went off to college. My mom and brother came to visit me within my first month of attending school. My mom made a comment I will never forget. She said, “You’re a different person in the short month you left. You’re flourishing here.”

There was a shift in college. I became more open, less insecure and more apt to meet new people. My confidence increased and I found myself more passionate in wanting to suceed. This contributed to my so called “loud voice”. Since graduating from college, I have worked two different jobs. My first job, I was shushed at times when my voice increased in volume. When I say shushed, a manager put her finger to her mouth and shushed me in front of other co-workers. I felt disrespected and ashamed. This is the start of my insecurity of my loud voice.

Another reason I feel insecure about how my voice carries is because people can hear me. If I’m heard, it gives anyone the opportunity to judge me. If people can hear me, they may debate me on certain political discussions or gossip behind my back. I believe this is a huge reason to why I’m insecure in the volume of my voice.

I believe there are pros and cons to having a loud voice. I don’t want to change who I am, but I have to match the person I’m with. This is called mirroring. If I’m with someone who is quieter, I do attempt to lower the volume of my voice. I wouldn’t say I’m changing who I am, instead being respectful of the world I live in and who I’m socializing with.

2019 Pop Culture Year in Review

Happy 2020! This year marks the beginning of a new decade. The 2010’s was a decade of personal growth. I developed a sense of self and started becoming comfortable with who I am as a person. I’m excited to see what the next ten years will bring for me. I wanted to recap everything I did in 2019:

Movies I saw in Theaters:

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Hello Kitty store at Universal Studios in Orlando

  • Bohemian Rhapsody (this movie released in 2018, but I didn’t see it until 2019)
  • Shazam 
  • Captain Marvel 
  • Avengers Endgame 
  • Spider-Man Far From Home 
  • It Chapter #2 
  • Joker 
  • Rise of Skywalker 

My favorite movie of 2019 was Shazam. This is a biased answer as I do lean more toward DC Comics. DC Comics is not known for making great movies and Shazam was funny, not too depressingly dark and worth re-watching.

TV Shows I Watched:

Lucifer

  • Ted Bundy Interview Tapes 
  • Queer Eye Season #2 
  • Shrill 
  • Hot Date 
  • Lucifer 
  • New Girl 

My favorite TV show in 2019 was a toss up between Shrill and Lucifer. Aidy Bryant is a lovely human being. She demonstrates her experience being constantly body shamed by everyone around her, but how she still succeeds professionally. I believe Shrill’s second season releases sometime this year. Lucifer is a fun show too because it’s a Los Angeles, Law & Order show with demons flying around wrecking havoc. Lucifer’s final season 😦 premeires sometime in 2020 on Netflix.

The two TV shows I watched in 2019 that I couldn’t get into were Castle Rock and Homeland. Castle Rock has potential, but I couldn’t follow the story or get invested in the characters. Homeland had a strong start, but I lost interest halfway through the first season. Life is too short to waste time watching shows you’re not interested in.

Video Games I Played:

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  • The Order 1886 < I didn’t even finish playing this because it was terrible
  • Until Dawn 
  • Heavy Rain 

This was a light gaming year for me. I’m looking forward to gaming more in 2020. I’m currently playing Kingdom Hearts III and I have plans on purchasing Jedi Fallen Order sometime in the future.

My favorite video game of 2019 was for sure Until Dawn. This game got me through our polar vortex in Minneapolis. By Polar Vortex, I mean the weather was -32 degrees. -32 degrees!?!?!?!?!? I stayed inside, so I wouldn’t freeze to death and played Until Dawn. 

Gaming in 2019

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  • War of the Spark Pre-Release in April of 2019 
  • Modern Horizons Pre-Release in June of 2019 
  • Cultists & Cthulhu 
  • Star Trek Ascension 
  • Throne of Eldraine Pre-Release 

My favorite game I played in 2019 was the War of the Spark pre-release. I did really well. I didn’t win a match (winning best of three games), but I won a total of three individual games. This set was wild. There were a bunch of planeswalkers wrecking havoc in everyone’s games. I’m looking forward to the next MtG sets in 2020.

Graphic Novels + Comics I Read this Year (probably not everything I read, I may be forgetting some)

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  • My Giant Nerd Boyfriend (web comic on webtoons) 
  • Hush Batman Graphic Novel 
  • Batman Knightfall series (series I received at Convergence in 2018)
  • Watchmen
  • Midnight Task Force (Mad Cave Comics)
  • Battlecats Vol #1 Hunt for the Direbeast
  • Runaways: Find Your Way Home
  • Knights of the Golden Sun Issues #1-#4
  • Hellboy Volume #1
  • Afterglow
  • Paper Girls Volume #4
  • Badass Girl 3 issues 
  • Prometheite 
  • Riri Williams #1 

My favorite graphic novel / comic I read in 2019 was. . . a toss up between Watchmen and Midnight Task Force. When I first started reading Watchmen, I thought that this series wasn’t going to be for me. When I finished the graphic novel, I was deeply surprised at how much I enjoyed the story. This novel could create a discussion on some of the political messages layered into the story. With Midnight Task Force, I fell into the environment of this futuristic Detroit and how crime is exponentially high. The series left on a cliffhanger and I’m hoping the second trade paperback will be released sometime in 2020.

2019 Pop Culture Moments

  • Rami Malek winning the Best Actor at the Oscars
  • Jussie Smollett’s “fake” hate crime

I truly believe Rami deserved the Oscar for his portrayal as Freddie Mercury. Many people were upset because they believed Bradley Cooper was snubbed for A Star is Born. Keep in mind, this is the 4th? remake of this movie. It’s not anything different, unlike a biopic of Freddie Mercury who meant so much to so many people. I know this is an unpopular opinion, but I’m sticking with it.

Podcast I Couldn’t Stop Listening To:

  • This Podcast Will Kill You 
  • Babes at the Table 
  • Science Rules Bill Nye’s Podcast 
  • Not Another DnD Podcast 
  • Generation Bond 
  • The Love of Comics 

Last year, I picked Anna Faris’s Unqualified podcast as my favorite podcast of 2018. Sadly, I don’t listen to this podcast anymore. Apparently there was drama between Sim and Ana who were the co-hosts. Sim isn’t on Ana’s podcast anymore which destroyed the vibe I originally liked.

My favorite podcast of 2019 has to be Not Another DnD Podcast because it got me through the extremely long drive from Minneapolis to Indianapolis to go to Gen Con. My brother enjoyed this podcast too.

Catchiest Song in 2019:

This is a toss up between any song by Lizzo and Bad Guy by Billie Eilish.

Conventions I attended in 2019:

Thursday waiting to rush the vendor hall

Gen Con 2019

I attended six conventions: Con of the North, C2E2 in Chicago, MSP Spring Con, Convergence, Gen Con and Fallcon. This increased by two conventions from 2018.

Personal Memories

Top Three Memories from 2019:

Getting Engaged! 🙂

Me and Grant

ENGAGED! 😀 

He popped the question on May 4th which happened to be Free Comic Book Day and National Star Wars Day. This is something I will never let him forget.

Getting a New Job:

Working in downtown Minneapolis has been a blessing. I get to take the bus into work on most days which has saved me so much in gas money. I like my new coworkers. The job has better benefits and pay. This wasn’t something I was prediciting to happen in 2019, but I’m really glad it did.

Universal Studios Trip in Feb. 2019

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SO COOLLL!!!

My Resolution for 2020?

I have no specific resolution. I wish for a safe and happy 2020.

 

Emerald City Comic Con!

I’m excited to announce I will be attending Emerald City Comic Con in Seattle from March 12th through the 15th of 2020 on a press badge. I have never been to Seattle, but I have always wanted to go to the Pacific Northwest. I’m planning on flying in on Wednesday and flying out on Sunday. I want to explore Seattle in addition to attending the convention. I’m beginning to do my research as to celebrity guests to meet, comics to purchase and how much I need to budget for this convention.

Emerald City Comic Con hosted 98,000 fans in their 2019 show. That’s so many people! Reedpop has been hosting this showing for years and they also put on C2E2 which I attended this year in Chicago. Emerald City Comic Con does have a harassment policy which is super important. I have been harassed at conventions before and it’s an unpleasant experience to say the least. Attending a convention with a dedicated harassment policy makes me feel safer as a fan.

Seattle is a great city to host a convention for a variety of reasons. It’s important to point out that Funko is based in Everett, WA. Additionally, both Image & Dark Horse are based out of Oregon which is only a state away. I’m going to be on the prowl for graphic novels to add to my collection and I may pick up a Funko pop along the way.

To say I’m excited would be an understatement. I wanted to shout out Reedpop for giving me a press badge. As the convention gets closer, I will plan out what I intend to write about. It’s nice because when the show gets closer, I will start getting press emails which will allow me to plan out my days. I already booked my hotel which is 0.4 mile walk to the convention center. 2020 is already starting off with a bang.

 

Colorado was Mesmorizing

Two weeks ago I took a solo road trip to Colorado driving 13-14 hours one way. Colorado is a beautiful place with the Rocky Mountains extending throughout most of the state. I have seen the Appalachian’s in Georgia, but the Rockies are an entirely different scenery. I had an amazing trip and I wanted to share my experience.

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Sioux Falls, South Dakota. Picture taken by Me. 

One of my childhood friends recently moved out to Federal Heights which is half way between Denver and Boulder. As soon as I found out about his recent move, I knew immediately I wanted to go and see him. I left on a Wednesday and made stops in Sioux Falls and Mitchell, South Dakota. Sioux Falls has the falls park, which is rather pretty, but now that I have seen it, I wouldn’t stop there again. In Mitchell, South Dakota, there’s the corn palace. The Corn Palace is a gigantic castle with a history of corn inside. It’s very midwestern which is part of the reason I stopped there. It’s corny, *see what I did there* but I had a fun time exploring the castle. Eventually, I reached Denver by 9:30 PM. I stayed in Colorado for three full days before heading back to Minneapolis on Sunday.

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Outside of the Corn Palace in Mitchell, South Dakota. Picture taken by Me. 

While in Colorado, we did a lot of hiking. I’m surprised at how much the altitude impacted me. I consider myself mostly in shape, but I found I was out of breath faster. The hike was a lot tougher than I thought it was going to be. I wish while I was in Colorado that I drank more water. I had a tension headache throughout most of the trip which was probably due to dehydration and lack of oxygen. Despite the headache, the hike was breathtaking *I have got to stop with these puns*

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Harry Potter Tattoo Hike. Photo taken by My Friend

The last hike we did was the Garden of the Gods. Garden of the Gods is located in Colorado Springs which is two hours south from Denver. Unlike the first hike in the Rockies, these rocks are bright red in color. This hike was less difficult than the one in the Rockies, but again with a mounting tension headache, I started to lose steam towards the end.

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Garden of the Gods. Picture taken by Me. 

Towards the end of my three days, I didn’t want to leave. I had friends from college who had moved to Colorado as soon as they graduated. I can see why. My friend said I’m welcome back anytime and I might take him up on that except I wouldn’t do the drive again. Colorado was one of my favorite trips I have ever taken and I can’t wait to go back.

As a side note, Colorado is a geeky place. My friend took me to a numerous amount of game stores, comic shops etc. My favorite game store I went to was in Boulder titled Gamer’s GuildWe were able to sit down with the owner and his cute puppy. We even did a Throne of Eldraine draft on Friday night. I didn’t do so well in the draft, but it was still fun to experience the geeky culture in Colorado.

 

Cream & Amber – Best Independent Book Store in Minneapolis

My favorite way to shop is to go to an independent or small business. It’s the best way to get to know people in the community, while also being able to use my limited disposable income to show which businesses I want to support. Recently, me and my fiance moved into a two bedroom apartment which we both are in love with. This apartment is a five minute drive to Cream & Amber, my favorite local book store.

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Launch Day! February 2019. Photo taken by Me. 

Cream & Amber opened recently in downtown Hopkins, MN. I went to the launch with my friend and her husband where we were able to have a pint and chit chat. The Happy Hour deals at Cream and Amber are decently priced and it’s never too busy. I like Happy Hour prices, but I don’t like crowds of people swarming the bar for drinks. Cream and Amber allows me to purchase a MN based beer, sip on said beer and buy more books then I could possibly read in a year.

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Mmm.. Beer. Photo Taken by Me!

It’s really convenient for me to order books. There’s an email form on their website if you want specific books ordered. They take care of the rest and send you an email when you can pick them up. I’m sure they would ship the order to you, but I like being able to stop in and have a coffee to take with me. I follow Cream and Amber on their Instagram feed and they post good deals on used books. I have messaged them from their story and requested books that way as well. In suburbia, there are two Barnes & Noble within 10 minutes of each other, but I still prefer stopping into Cream and Amber. 

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Cream & Amber is now Open. YAY! Photo Taken by Me. 

Cream and Amber is not only a small business, but it’s owned by women! It’s not a requirement for me to support businesses owned by women, but it certainly is a plus. It’s also LGBTQIA+ friendly as well. Cream and Amber also has a book club, but I haven’t been following it enough to know what their October book is.

Cream and Amber is a book store I can’t recommend enough for any of my Minnesotan readers. Their customer service is fantastic and they make buying books easy. If I wasn’t going to Colorado this week, you better believe I would be sending them an email of all the books I need.

Colorado Road Trip

In two and a half weeks, I will be taking a road trip to see a friend in Colorado. The exciting part is viewing autumn colors, but also seeing a new state. Colorado has been a bucket list trip idea partially because of the scenery and the hiking trails. I have known college friends who have moved out to Colorado and don’t have anything negative to say. If any of my readers have ever been to Colorado and have suggestions for me of places to see, please comment your recommendations below. 

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Beautiful Rocky Mountain picture. Photo from Pixabay, free images. 

With this trip, I have actively chosen to drive versus fly. The driving time will be 13 hours one way. For some, this would be dreadful, but for me, I enjoy to drive. I put on my favorite podcast and I have control of making stops along the way. It’s an achievement to say that I drove 26 hours all by myself. I will say if I do make a return trip to Colorado, I will fly, but because I have never been, I want to drive the distance.

The current trip itinerary includes:

  • Visiting Boulder, Colorado
  • Casa Bonita from South Park
  • Rocky Mountain National Park
  • 16th St. Mall
  • Some dispensary 🙂

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Durango, Colorado. Image from Pixabay: free images. 

In between my trip, I have been checking out Atlas Obscura for unique things to do while I’m in Colorado. I would love geeky ideas including escape rooms, comic book stores etc. while I’m there. I’m going to bold this again, but if you have any geeky Colorado recommendations of activities I must do please please please make a comment on my blog post. 

This will definitely be my last trip of 2019. This will allow me to save for future traveling in 2020. I’m counting down the days until I see the beautiful Rockies in person.

 

Always – My Harry Potter Tattoo

I have known about my future Harry Potter tattoo since high school. In February, we took a family vacation to Orlando to see Universal Studios specifically “the Wizarding World of Harry Potter.” It was an amazing trip and I hope to go back in the next couple of years. Once I got back, I started giving my tattoo a lot more thought.

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Hearing the noise of the Tattoo machine. Taken by my friend through snapchat. 

In April, I started researching tattoo places in the Minneapolis area. I specifically was looking for any artist who specialized in colored ink. My tattoo idea was the blue / white ghostly stag of Harry’s patronus with a whisp of blue at the bottom leading into the Deathly Hallows symbol. I found Jackalope Tattoo located in South Minneapolis and I was impressed by the variety of artists they had on their staff. Each artist specialized in a different art technique meaning I could find someone who meshed with my idea. I clicked with Amo Azure, due to their profile which included bright art and watercolor infused tattoos. Amo was professional, direct and knowledgeable about where my tattoo should go on my body and what it would look like.

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Outline is done! Picture taken by my friend through snapchat. 

When I arrived, Amo was ready for me and my friend. I wasn’t nervous about the pain of the tattoo until I heard the tattoo machine turn on. One fact I learned while getting my tattoo is to never use the term “tattoo gun” because it’s a prison slang term, instead using tattoo machine. When I describe how it felt getting my tattoo, I would say it’s a cat scratch on a sun burn. This was advice given to me from two of my friends when I asked how does getting a tattoo feel. The higher up on my shoulder, the more it hurt. The color hurt the most because there were more needles than the black ink. After an hour and a half, I was done and super satisfied with my tattoo.

I’m waiting anxiously for the tattoo to fully heal, but I’m thrilled with the finished design. One of the benefits of putting my tattoo on my shoulder blade is that I can see it in the mirrors when I work out. It gives me an extra boost during my workout. My only regret is not getting the tattoo done sooner.

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The finished tattoo! Picture taken by my friend. 

Gaming at Gen Con

This past weekend, I attended Gen Con for the first time. Gen Con is a four day gaming convention located in downtown Indianapolis. This convention encompasses several facets of gaming including: board games, PC gaming, trading card games, RPG’s, LARP (Live Action Role Play) and more. Detailing my experience attending Gen Con is more difficult than I imagined. It’s challenging to put into words how much this convention meant to me as a gaming geek. I’m starting to get teary eyed as I type this post because I had such a fantastic time gaming for four days straight. For those who are looking to attend Gen Con, I would highly recommend it. 

My journey to Gen Con started in February of this year. I applied for a press badge on a whim because why not? I was approved for a press badge for C2E2 in Chicago, so why not try it for Gen Con. My press badge was approved within a couple of weeks after I submitted my first application. Within a month before the convention, my email was flooded with board game developers wanting to set up a time for demos and interviews. I settled on two demo’s with Goliath Games and Games by Bicycle. To prevent this post from being incredibly long, I’m going to write a separate post on the games I did “demo” from both of these developers.

After realizing I was actually going to Gen Con, I recruited my brother to come with me. I was already planning on driving down to Indianapolis, but I didn’t want to go by myself. Having my brother with me throughout the drive made it more bearable. We listened to Not Another DnD Podcast as we drove to get us hyped up for the convention.

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My friend, Me and My Brother waiting to go into the Vendor Hall at Gen Con 2019. 

Me and my brother chose to stay in an Air BnB versus a hotel downtown. Part of this decision resulted because I couldn’t find any hotel on Gen Con’s website with a room available. As soon as passes go on sale in January, hotel rooms are reserved as well. This meant by the time I was looking for a room, I was coming up with nothing. Our Air BnB was about 25-30 minutes away from Downtown Indianapolis. One of my regrets was not staying right in the heart of downtown. I wanted the full Gen Con experience, but I felt that was stunted because of knowing we needed to take a Lyft every single day. We also had to bring almost everything we needed for the full day because we didn’t have anywhere to store our stuff. This didn’t take away from the convention, but it made me realize what I want to do for next year’s convention.

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LOOK AT THIS CROWD! Waiting to enter the vendor hall. 

When I first approached the Indianapolis Convention Center on Thursday, I was in awe of how big the vendor hall is. There are 30 ROWS OF GAMES. 30 ROWS!? I was overwhelmed. How could I look at all the games where there are that many developers who appear at Gen Con? It wasn’t until after the third day of attending that I felt I had seen every vendor. I brought $300 of spending cash with me and even though it was enough cash for me, I could have easily saved more.

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I lost the game.. playing Lander at Gen Con 2019. 

As far as the gaming, it’s extremely organized. On the Gen Con website, I signed up for a couple gaming demo’s before the convention began. However, I discovered I could also buy generic gaming tickets if I found a game I wanted to demo, but didn’t have it in my schedule. I demoed an intergalactic strategy game titled Lander which doesn’t launch on Kickstarter until March of 2020. Again, to prevent this post from being gigantic, I will write a separate post of my game testing of Lander. I do plan on “kicking” the game once it launches because I enjoyed the strategy of what the game had to offer.

Another reason I loved being at Gen Con was I felt I was at the center of board game news. As I mentioned in the previous paragraph, I played Lander which hasn’t even been released yet. It felt like I was getting a “sneak peak” of a game that hasn’t launched.

To end my post, I wanted to sum up the turn out of Gen Con 2019. Gen Con had a record breaking year with 70,000 attendees. There were 19,600 ticketed gaming events, over 2,000 of these tickets were electronic tickets found on the Gen Con app. Finally, Gen Con took measures to cut down on waste that the convention produces. For their efforts, they prevented 24,000 cups from ending up in Indiana’s landfills.

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Gen Con was super cool. 

Gen Con was a life changing experience for me. I never felt more proud to be a gamer and to be in a place where I fit in. This convention is one I hope to attend again in 2020. Hopefully I will see some of you there 😉

 

Convergence & New Beginnings

I will be honest, this week kicked my ass. I was working extremely long days which led to me coming home and passing out on my couch. The break from writing was much needed as I feel rejuvenated to bring content to BizarreBrunette. I wanted to recap my sixth Convergence convention which happened during the Fourth of July weekend. This year was different because Convergence moved hotels from the Doubletree in Bloomington to the Downtown Minneapolis Hyatt. This Convergence was one of my favorite years I attended due to the change in hotel.

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Daddy’s Little Monster, Convergence 2019 

The Downtown Minneapolis Hyatt Hotel was a perfect location for Convergence. Since the hotel is located in the heart of Minneapolis, it’s easier to drive to. I ended up staying with a friend who lives slightly south of the cities, but we ended up taking an Uber each way which was convenient. It’s freeing to not have to worry about the status of my vehicle and whether or not I’m parked in an illegal space. This was the first Convergence where I didn’t have my car on site and it was worth it.

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Convergence 2019 

One of the highlights of Convergence besides the hotel was the accessibility to the gaming floor. In Doubletree hotel, the gaming floor was on the 22nd floor. In order to play a game, you had to leave the festivities on the main level, wait for an elevator only to get to the 22nd floor with all gaming slots being filled. Instead, this year, there was more empty tables to play games with friends. Additionally, since the gaming room was on the fifth floor, it was easier to play a game here and then there while being able to return to the con at any given moment.

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Wonder Woman cosplay! 

Finally, being in Downtown Minneapolis meant there was access to great food. There were many restaurants, breweries and taverns located within walking distance. We visited the local brewery, Lakes and Legends, quite a few times. I may have been the only one in cosplay at the brewery, but I had no shame. I was able to limit my food intake to one meal out to eat which allowed me to save money while exploring the Downtown area.

This Convergence was one to remember. Severe con depression sank in the Monday I returned to work because of how great my weekend was. Convergence is always a highlight of my summer and I always count down the days till next year.

Why Diversity is Needed Among Panelists: Convergence 2019

This past weekend, I was attending Convergence at the Minneapolis Downtown Hyatt Regency hotel. This will have been my sixth year attending the con as I always have a fun time hanging out with friends, wandering around in cosplay and taking lots of pictures. Whenever I attend Convergence, I try to choose a couple panels to see that peak my interest. This is what inspired me to write this post because it’s crucial to have diversity among the panelists.

Me and my friend’s husband sat down for a panel regarding antagonists we sympathize with in pop culture. The white panelists immediately dived into discussing Killmonger from Black Panther which led to a discussion about race. It’s not that white people can’t talk about race, but it looks really bad especially when there’s no person of color on the panel. There were a couple audience members who chimed in regarding race who were part of a minority group and their points were thought provoking and educated. The fact is being white eliminates us from understanding racial bias since it’s something we don’t experience. This racial bias is what contributes to Killmonger’s story and why he wants Wakanda’s resources. Diversity among panelists would have avoided this issue entirely along with providing the audience a well rounded discussion.

Besides the problematic discussion of race, there was another instance in the panel that left me feeling irritated. A female panelist was discussing a book series she liked, but had given a content warning for the sexual assault in the book. The discussion went as follows:

Female Panelist: This is a book series I really enjoy and the female villain is put through tremendous trauma, so I’d like to give a content warning regarding sexual assault for any female audience members.

Male Moderator: I didn’t think the book was that bad.

EXCUSE ME?! Of course you wouldn’t think the book was bad. As a white male in our society, you may never understand the concept of using rape as a means to hold power over women. Reading the passage in the book may not be harmful to you, but as a woman whenever I read a rape sequence in a book, a content warning is rather useful to me. I’m going to give the benefit of the doubt to this male panelist because he did seem to backtrack after she made a response back to him. However, it goes to show how some men don’t necessarily understand our struggle with sexual violence especially when it’s specifically isolated to our sex.

Overall I had a great experience at Convergence, but I will say this panel left a bad taste in my mouth. This could have been avoided if more persons of color and women were added to this panel. If you happen to be on a panel where the panelists are one dimensional, I would involve more audience participation to retain an adequate discussion among certain topics in society. Let me know in the comments section if you have ever had an experience like this with attending a panel at a convention, I’d like to hear about it.